HELPING YOU NAVIGATE YOUR HUMAN EXPERIENCE SO YOU CAN FIND BLISS + LIVE ON PURPOSE.
RETREATS, COACHING + MORE
Get out
of guilty vibes + self-judgement
Visualize
what you want your life to look like, forreal
Stop
living in a box
Does this sound like you?
“I’d love to travel more, but I should be focusing on getting my degree.”
“I’m single, but I should settle down in the next 5 years, and start having kids.”
“I really love planning events, but I should be more realistic when it comes to a career.”
Girl, you’re “should-ing” all over yourself!!
SO, WHY TRUST ME WITH THIS JOURNEY?
I spent most of my life doing what made me happy, (with permission from my parents.)
My story begins when I started dance lessons at 3 years old. A childhood decision that would direct the trajectory of my life for years to come…
Conditioning me to constantly judge and compare myself to others.
I graduated college with a dance major, and shortly after, decided to make the move halfway across the country from Nebraska to Los Angeles, and pursue the career of a professional dancer.
For 21 years of my life I thought I was doing what made me happy. I had traveled so deep down the rabbit hole that I believed this was my purpose.
Spoiler alert: IT WASN’T.
After a whole year of dance auditions and classes in LA…
I threw in the towel.
I was done dancing.
I realized I had been in this new city for at least a year(!) and hadn’t even made one new (real) friend.
It would have been easy to just move home, and thoughts began to creep into my mind, thoughts like:
“I’m letting my parents down.”
“It was a mistake to move here”
“How am I going to pay rent?”
“What is the purpose?”
Negative self talk and doubt filled my brain, but something continued to attract me to LA.
I wasn’t quite finished with this city. Queue: rock bottom
I was lost, and lonely & ready for a chance to feel worthy.
Shortly after I stopped dancing, I began a job at a restaurant and met a guy… Stephen worked with me at the bar, he treated me nice & took me out to all the cool west side spots. He knew so many people in the restaurant industry, and got us discounts on drinks, how could I say “no”?!
Fun dates turned into sleepovers, and eventually I found myself staying multiple days at his place. Whenever I would go out without him it would turn into an argument. No matter what I said or knew to be true, I was always guilty. According to him, I was the flirt. He “couldn’t trust me”. Therefore I was the one standing outside his apartment one night crying for him to let me in.
Fast forward, Stephen broke up with me via text message.
I found out after all of his accusations towards me, that it was in fact HIM who was cheating.
It was never me.
Typically, I got my first (big) tattoo after that experience, a rose on the back of my right shoulder. To this day, it is a reminder that I am the only one who knows the true me, that I can buy my own flowers, and that I, too, deserve a beautiful & true love.
On top of a shitty break up, I realized throughout the whole relationship, I was being manipulated and mentally abused by a guy who I thought deserved my love.
Needless to say, in my already vulnerable state, this CRUSHED me.
So, what about you?
It’s interesting to see how far you will allow a relationship to go…
You let them “get away with” certain behaviors because “you love them” or “they didn’t mean it” or “maybe they’ll change”
Sound familiar? But, where is the line? How much will you allow someone else to treat you poorly?
Of course it’s usually too late before we discover the truth…
that we are the ones who hold the power.
So what did I do? And what can YOU do?
I decided to restart. I could see how this person was treating me badly, and it gave me a new perspective to how I was actually treating myself!
*MINDBLOWN*. 🤯
This brought awareness to the fact that I must unconditionally love myself.
But how?
I was still lost, and I needed an answer.
I started my journey in the place that felt most like home, movement. And I found a deep connection to myself when I was in the yoga room.
Through my yoga practice, and eventually yoga teacher training, I began to find clarity.
I could feel the energy around me starting to shift, and in effect watched my life become a place I wanted to be.
I started meeting good people, authentically nice souls. Good girl friends and a new guy, who, with honesty & communication, became my best friend and soulmate.
Now 8 years in LA, 6 years in a healthy relationship, 5 years of teaching yoga, and 2 years surviving a global pandemic, I can genuinely say that I’ve found my answer.
For so long I put myself in a box.
I had broken out of my Nebraska box, but found myself in a new one.
A box for dancers, a box for fitness instructors & now a box for yoga instructors.
Because that’s all I’ve ever done, live in boxes.
How can you not? When pressure from parents, family, and society weighs down on you? Of course it’s natural to do what is “right”.
But what if what is right, isn’t what you want?
In my case, what I thought was right, what I thought was my only option, my box –
was only a potential of what I had to offer this world.
I caught a glimpse of my purpose, but now I’m taking control of the whole dream. And so you can you!
INTRODUCING…
The Self-Love 1:1 Coaching Program
Fall back in love with yourself.
It’s an antidote to chaos in a crazy world.
An antidote to boxes.
Reconnect to yourself and others. Know that you’re not alone.
Whether it’s 1:1 coaching or a day full of insight & community through retreats, you’ll gain perspective and clarity.
Choose yourself.
The truth is – all of the answers you’re searching for, you already know. Sometimes all we need is a little guidance, someone to pull back the curtain, for us to realize we’ve been home all along.
You see…
I found my purpose in helping you find yours.
The philosophy & mindfulness practiced in yoga, self help books, and awareness in real life experiences
helped me to rewire my brain.
I had to retrain my thought process, by getting to know myself.
So, what exactly is Toni Longoria Coaching?
It’s a service & lifestyle created by someone who is living proof that it works. You’ve read my story, now let me hear yours. What challenges have you experienced? How dark did it have to get for you to realize you were missing the light? Something needs to change.
Through 1:1 coaching and a personalized program, we can discover, understand, and heal that which holds you back. And now offering group retreats as another way to find insight & perspective on your situation. Connect with like minded people, and learn tools to help you move forward with gratitude.